I am surrounded by the presence of wom- en and their stories. And I’ve noticed that often, we, as women, don’t do the best job as storytellers. I find women spend
the least amount of time crafting their own stories. I see them get swept up in other people’s
narratives, or playing a secondary character in
someone else’s tale, or—even worse—giving
up on their own stories. But if you see your life
as a story, you can use three rules of storytelling to weave a tale you are proud to tell.
Rule #1: Don’t Just Be the Hero
I constantly hear the phase: Be the hero of
your own story. I see it on posters, on memes,
on home décor. And that is fine advice. We
should be the hero of our own story. But I’ve
seen enough Disney movies with my daughters to know that even when the princess is the
hero of the story, it’s always narrated by someone else. An omnipresent voice telling us the
hero’s journey and, often, how to feel about it.
It’s not enough to be the hero of your story. Be
the narrator. Then, write yourself as the hero.
I remember the first time I lost my narrative. It was after the birth of my first daughter,
and in the middle of my doctoral degree. I
was able to secure two days of childcare. This
meant that on Tuesdays and Thursdays I would
need to attend class, do any of the university
By Meg Myers Morgan
In this 3-part series, Dr. Meg Myers Morgan,
best-selling author and professor at University
of Oklahoma, shares three rules every woman
should remember as she lives her life story.
Meg shares these excerpts from her upcoming
book, Counter Offer: Negotiating the Life You
Want, “a work and life guide for women.”