of us hold ourselves to a higher standard than we hold for
others, but why? Why are we kinder and more forgiving to
others than we are to ourselves?
Regardless of how you answer that question, it is important to realize that you can set the tone, the example,
for your team and for your family. If you feel defeated,
stretched, and are unkind or impatient with yourself and
others, you are modeling that for everyone around you. I
am never 100% to everyone at all times, but I strive to give
whatever I have that day to the present moment and the
people around me. This is a practice I am still working on
mastering, and when I fall short one day, I need to forgive
myself.
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As I sit here feeding my newborn and second child, it hits me… I am the life support for my children. Not just in the literal sense, but in the motional sense as well. The more time and
energy I spend nurturing the newborn, I realize the second
one needs nurturing, even more so now.
Nurturing is a constant in our lives. Nurturing our
children, our relationships, our business, our teammates,
our partners, and ourselves. It is needed in every compartment of our lives and at times some compartments need
more of it than others. I am sure some of you have been
there. You add a new element to your life, whether it be a
marriage, a child, or a new job, and with the blessing comes
compromise or shifts. You ask yourself, “how do I balance it
all? Will I have enough patience and energy to be strong for
the entire unit and take care of myself? How do I give to
my team and customers at the same level of service while
still providing for my family, myself, and my interests? Is the
expectation to provide 100% to all compartments of our
lives at all times? Is that even possible?
I don’t have the answer to that, and I imagine every
person, depending on their own personal discipline and
personality type may answer that question differently. Most
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MOMS:
SETTING
THE TONE
By Jessica Rocho Nagatani
Jessica Rocho Nagatani is the Chief
Production Officer for Honolulu Home
Loans and a mother of two. Jessica can
be reached at jnagatani@honhl.com.
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