A Dialogue on Including or Excluding
Men from Women’s Events By Karen Deis
This article is written in re-
sponse to one of my newsletters on
the topic of women’s events. I wrote
that companies should:
“Engage men! Since men make
up the majority of leadership posi-
tions, they should be aware of what
their female employees are learning
in order to reinforce the message.
Men's attendance also demon-
strates a value for the initiative and
sends the message that this is not
just a "women's issue;" it's an ‘orga-
Karen Deis brought up a very in-
teresting and important point on the
topic of bringing men into women’s
events. Karen describes an important
issue–men tend to be more vocal in
conversations and women often hold
back their viewpoints in the presence
of men, particularly executive-level
I still think there is a balance
here between inviting men and
having women’s only groups, but I
always want to encourage open dialogue and varying perspectives. That
said, we’d love to hear from you!
Comment or let us know your experiences in having men or excluding
men from women’s events.
Enjoy! -- Kristin Messerli
Why Men Should Not Be Included
in Women-Only Mortgage Events!
A letter from Karen Deis, Co-Founder, www.MortgageGirlfriends.com –
Providing sales and marketing strategies for women in the mortgage industry.
Hi Kristin -
Thanks for your comments; however, I would like to contribute my view-
point to your comment [about engaging men at women’s events]. I have held
women mastermind conferences for the last 10 years and have had many years
of experience with this topic.
So, let me start with this:
I am a seminar junkie.
There, I’ve said it. Not only do I attend mortgage seminars that are a mix of
men and women (more men than women), I hold several mastermind retreats
each year for mortgage women.
In the past, I have loved attending the mixed-gender mortgage seminars.
Most of the speakers were men loan officers. They talked about marketing,
working with assistants, how to generate leads, social media strategies… These
are all great ideas. But when I attempted to implement them, they did not work
for me. Why? Because as women, we conduct our mortgage business differently
than most men.
That’s why I believe that men should NOT attend women-focused meeting
I don’t know if you have noticed, but men tend to dominate the conversation. They not only inhibit women from speaking freely about their
business, but women tend to also hold back their ideas and
My suggestion is to attend and embrace women’s only
events, as they can be a great opportunity for growth. You
also may consider conducting “Lunch-and-Learns” or “
Realtor Roundtable Meetings” for women only. My experience
has been that you will get more engagement and more
Thanks for the opportunity to comment and hope
that you consider another viewpoint to the "women-only"
Regards, Karen Deis